By Daniel Staiger, CFP®, CRPC®
While most of us know money can’t buy true happiness, it can certainly provide the freedom to pursue choices that offer genuine joy and satisfaction. However, simply accumulating wealth should not be the ultimate objective. It’s the way you utilize your money that can ultimately bring you the greatest fulfillment and happiness in life.
At Matarazzo Staiger Wealth Management, we hold the belief that the truest sense of fulfillment comes when your financial goals, habits, and mindset align with your personal values.
Lining up your financial situation with your personal values requires deep reflection to determine whether your values are reflected in your everyday life. This kind of introspection can be challenging, which is why we have created a concise guide to help you engage in the process of uncovering how you can better align your true values with your financial goals and habits.
Start by separating your values into two categories: the values you were taught, and the values that truly make you happy. There may be some overlap between the two, but the goal is to find out if there is a difference between the values you think you have and the values that are truly meaningful in your life.
For example, you may have been taught to work hard and pour your soul into a corporate job that pays well but which might not bring you any personal satisfaction. But in reality, you might find more fulfillment from a nonprofit job that pays less but whose mission and good work you believe in. To start this process, psychologist Jim Taylor recommends answering the following three questions:
Digging into these questions can uncover the values you hold that truly fulfill you and bring joy to your life. If you’re constantly unhappy, whether that be from your job, your financial behaviors, or something else, this is a sign that you may not be living according to your true values.
You also need to take stock of your money mindset. Your money mindset has been cultivated from your life experience. You may have learned good financial habits from your parents. You may have even learned bad financial habits if you watched your parents fail financially. Whatever your experiences have been with personal finances, they are the key to understanding why you behave the way you do around financial matters.
Understanding your money mindset is important because it allows you to grow intentionally. Identifying a toxic or substandard financial mindset is the first step to changing that mindset. By knowing what you want to change, you’re in more control over how and when you change it.
Here’s the hard part. You need to be honest with yourself about the alignment of your values and your money mindset. It’s tough to be honest with ourselves. It takes hard work. But it’s been said throughout history that self-reflection is one of life’s most difficult yet rewarding endeavors. (Socrates’ famous statement comes to mind: “The unexamined life is not worth living.”)
Reflecting and being honest with yourself about the disconnects you’ve identified will help you get on the right path to healthier behaviors and goals. If this process leads to greater fulfillment and an easier time reaching your realistic financial goals, it will all be worth it.
After all this reflection, your ideal life probably looks a bit different from your day-to-day life, your reality. To reach that ideal lifestyle, you must sync your “living life” with the values you identified that actually make you happy. Remember that these are the values that connect you to the activities, experiences, and people which bring you the most fulfillment.
Only then will you be able to create financial goals that truly reflect your values. When financial goals are connected to your values, your finances become the tool that allows you to reach the real goal, rather than being the end goal in and of itself. From this vantage point, you’re ready to experience long-lasting happiness.
At Matarazzo & Associates, we believe that managing your wealth is more than just managing your finances. Your financial choices should always align with your values and goals. If you’re interested in a partnership that prioritizes these principles, schedule a no-obligation introductory meeting by emailing me at daniel.staiger@raymondjames.com or calling (631) 319-6777.
Daniel Staiger is a partner at Matarazzo Staiger Wealth Management and Financial Advisor with Raymond James Financial Services. Matarazzo Staiger Wealth Management is an Independent Practice and our team is committed to helping families, pre-retirees, and union employees build a sense of security and confidence around their financial future. With more than 10 years of experience, Daniel is dedicated to providing trusted advice and tailored solutions that help his clients realize their financial potential. He is known for building relationships with his clients so he can better understand their values and the goals they want to pursue. As a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ and Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor℠ professional, Daniel specializes in serving union employees, such as tradespeople and teachers, with well-thought-out guidance and a personal touch. When he’s not working, Daniel spends his time pursuing interests such as guitar, volleyball, golf, and cooking. He is also an active member of his church. To learn more about Daniel, connect with him on LinkedIn.
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